How to Effectively Divorce a California Spouse Who Wants to Fight Over Everything

At the Land Legal Group, our Los Angeles family law attorneys know that all California divorce proceedings are unique. While some spouses can make swift decisions outside the courtroom, others are willing to fight over every minor detail — drawing out the process for years.

So, what happens when one spouse wants to move things along, and the other forces delay by contesting every detail?

Whether the conflict stems from one party’s chemical dependency or mental health problems, narcissistic behavior, or inability to separate truth from fiction, it fuels one spouse’s power to terrorize another.

If you are on the receiving end of this behavior, you already know how emotionally draining and challenging this will be. However, there are steps you can take to navigate the process as effectively as possible while minimizing conflict.

Stay Calm and Rational

No matter how long you have been in a relationship with your spouse or what they say to “push your buttons,” avoid getting drawn into unnecessary arguments. This is what they are counting on and is what gives them pleasure.

Keep your emotions in check and approach discussions calmly and rationally.

Set Boundaries

Let your spouse know that you are committed to finding a fair resolution and that excessive conflict will not be productive by setting boundaries and expectations for divorce. If your spouse crosses those boundaries, stop the conversation until they can resume a calmer approach.

Document Everything

Keep records of all communication, including emails, text messages, and any documentation of your divorce proceedings organized and accessible. This includes financial records, legal documents, and any agreements reached, which can be helpful should issues arise.

Focus on the Big Picture

Prioritize the most critical aspects of divorce, such as child custody, property division, and financial matters. Avoid getting caught up in minor disagreements that can escalate conflicts.

If you have children, shield them from unnecessary stress and anxiety accompanying conflict. Create a parenting plan that puts their best interests first and minimizes disruptions to their lives.

Remember that the divorce process is temporary. Focus on building a positive future for yourself and your family.

Seek Professional Legal Advice

Partnering with an experienced Los Angeles divorce attorney can help you understand your rights, options, and potential outcomes and provide the legal guidance you need to put your complete divorce — detail by detail — into perspective. This includes aligning your divorce goals with California laws so you know the reality of your circumstances. This can help reduce the stress caused by threats from your soon-to-be-ex-spouse about how the divorce will end in their favor.

Next, our skilled California divorce lawyer will lead your negotiations so you can remove yourself from as many potential arguments as possible.

Divorcing a contentious spouse requires a delicate balance of asserting your rights while striving for a resolution that is as amicable as possible. Your goal should be to minimize the negative impact on your well-being and any children involved.

Contact Our Los Angeles Divorce Attorneys at the Land Legal Group Today

If the situation becomes too difficult, do not hesitate to consult our Los Angeles divorce attorneys at the Land Legal Group for guidance on the best approach to handle the specific challenges you are facing by calling (310) 552-3500 today or contacting us online.